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Parents have to pay son to talk to him
News Type: Event — Seeded on Tue Nov 10, 2009 4:15 PM EST
Article Source: China Dailyadvertisement
Parents of a 20-something man in Tianjin municipality have to pay their son 100 yuan ($15) every time they want to speak to him.
According to the man's parents, their son's cell phone is always switched off and he somehow always manages to avoid meeting them when he enters or leaves the house.
"Once I left, 100 yuan outside his room's door with a note asking him to call me back, and he did," the man's father said.
"Ever since then, we have to leave a 100-yuan note outside his door if we expect him to call us."
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{"commentId":10601792,"authorDomain":"richardfarner"}
A new way of getting pocket money!
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- 1 vote
#1 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 4:15 PM EST{"commentId":10633647,"authorDomain":"jaker023"}
perhaps the kid read Rupert Murdoch's autobiography....
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{"commentId":10652524,"authorDomain":"thirdfeast"}
parents = idiots
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- 1 vote
{"commentId":10602789,"authorDomain":"ladysadie"}
In no way would I pay for the privilege of speaking with my children. That 20-year old needs his behind spanked because he is acting like a child. And then he needs to be told to start paying rent.
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- 4 votes
#2 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 4:52 PM EST{"commentId":10603004,"authorDomain":"jgrigsby"}
In the next envelope outside his door should be this note. Pack your things your greedy loser and clear out within 3 days, good bye and good luck! P.S. If you wish to speak to your mother or me, the price has gone up 150 yuan.
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- 11 votes
#3 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 4:59 PM EST{"commentId":10603764,"authorDomain":"kaffy"}
LOVE IT. I agree totally.
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- 2 votes
{"commentId":10604207,"authorDomain":"Tuttknows"}
I agree!! I wonder just how he came to be so inconsiderate, greedy and rude? Hmmmm!!!
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- 2 votes
{"commentId":10606841,"authorDomain":"kernel75"}
Must have been watching american news stories on "time outs" when he was growing up. He has learned no time out will be of value if you are stubborn enough, so that what ever you do will come to your own side eventually. I believe he has been westernized (hehe). Tossing him out on the street is perfect unless he has weapons available like some of the kids and young adults in the U.S. (see news almost every day). Sad but true.
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- 2 votes
{"commentId":10626549,"authorDomain":"r-s-m2008"}
Jeff nailed it!
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{"commentId":10604317,"authorDomain":"orchidrose"}
are you kidding me? I agree with ladysadie and jeff - the parents should pack his stuff up and leave it outside the house, or change the locks. If he wants his stuff, he can call to get it picked up and moved.
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- 5 votes
#4 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 5:58 PM EST{"commentId":10608413,"authorDomain":"bluedreamcatcher1856"}
Why should they pack the kids stuff up he isn't crippled. Change those locks and make him pay to come in and make sure to charge a storage fee. That will cook his goat smelling buttocks.
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- 5 votes
{"commentId":10625666,"authorDomain":"melrosefaulkner"}
I think I am on the same page as you, bluedreamcatcher.
This "child" is twenty or so. Kick him out and let him grow up. He will then start to appreciate his parents all the more. No way would I have even started that.
But, I was married and moved out of my parents house by two weeks after my 18th birthday, so... I did talk to them though, and I did go ask for advice. It has been an excellent relationship, especially in comparision to a lot of my friends that can't get their parents to stop telling them how to run their lives...
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- 1 vote
{"commentId":10604917,"authorDomain":"lovephil"}
Are you kidding? Ever hear the term "Little Emperor?" Chinese children - sons especially - are incredibly valued because of the one-child policy. As a consequence, many of them are spoiled absolutely rotten by doting parents and extended family.
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- 6 votes
#5 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 6:31 PM EST{"commentId":10606153,"authorDomain":"cuzzenbud"}
I think you hit that one right on the head, Ippus!
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- 3 votes
{"commentId":10609370,"authorDomain":"boonsorama"}
good point! They should have kept the daughter and gotten rid of him. It would have been cheaper.
;)
/sarcasm/ for those who don't know..,
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- 2 votes
{"commentId":10625699,"authorDomain":"melrosefaulkner"}
I am pretty sure that is the case, but it is still time to cut those apron strings. They should not accept this behavior. It does no favors for anybody.
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{"commentId":10605138,"authorDomain":"stinkweepete"}
My dad used to offer me money to shut up and go away.
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- 11 votes
#6 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 6:43 PM EST{"commentId":10606171,"authorDomain":"cuzzenbud"}
Stinkweed, are you trying to say you talk too much?
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- 6 votes
{"commentId":10611127,"authorDomain":"stinkweepete"}
I used to think so, but now I have a couple of kids under the age of six...
And I have come to realize that my father was a very wise man.
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- 6 votes
{"commentId":10607699,"authorDomain":"lvmom"}
The son is 20 years old. Put his belongings on the front lawn and change the locks. I bet he'll talk to his parents then!
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- 3 votes
#7 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 8:54 PM EST{"commentId":10609449,"authorDomain":"boonsorama"}
On the other hand, they are probably afraid if they are mean to him he won't take care of their ghosts when they are gone.
Superstitions are hard to go up against...
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{"commentId":10609517,"authorDomain":"Eflanagan"}
this is ridiculous
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#8 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 10:23 PM EST{"commentId":10609721,"authorDomain":"kejjr"}
I can't believe there are parents that would even vaguely entertain the thought of putting up with this kind of behavior!! What the hell is wrong with the parents!! Really!!
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#9 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 10:35 PM EST{"commentId":10610168,"authorDomain":"zebrabob"}
Put a lock on the outside of his door...if he wants in or out of his room, $20.00!
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#10 - Tue Nov 10, 2009 11:00 PM EST{"commentId":10610979,"authorDomain":"Husker88Fan"}
"Once I left, 100 yuan outside his room's door with a note asking him to call me back, and he did," the man's father said.
"Ever since then, we have to leave a 100-yuan note outside his door if we expect him to call us."
They substituted a lesson of personal responsibility with rewarding his disrespectful mannerisms when they offered him the first 100 yuan ~ and they continue to do so.
No one to blame here other than the parents!
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- 3 votes
#11 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 12:01 AM EST{"commentId":10611913,"authorDomain":"Revelation7912"}
I agree with Husker88Fan. The fact that the parents actually pony up and pay him is a pretty big indication that this guy grew up knowing that he was the boss and could make his parents cave to whatever he wanted. Why are you all blaming the kid? He obviously learned that his bad behavior works, and he learned that from his parents. Sure, as an adult you'd think he'd rise above his own childish antics, but after twenty-something years of not being disciplined, I'm not surprised that he hasn't.
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- 1 vote
#12 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 1:45 AM EST{"commentId":10612360,"authorDomain":"happyincary"}
We American's are gulity of these charges we pay for cell phones for our children at the early ages of 8 years old and we provide them IPHONES, BLACKBERRIES, just to name a few of the phones we give our children just to keep up with them after school and during school why their's an emergency, also how parents can say when you ring the cell phone after school hours they their children pick up and answer without the phone going to voice mail or if they are already in (the children I am speaking about), goes straight to answering system, that you are able to reach your child for a conversion, that you think is important, but the child thinks differently. We American's and citizens of America have spoiled these children and that is including me. So in the long run we are also paying for a conversion with our children when and if they return the call promptly or 1 hour later which they reply I didn't think it is was important...............We the people of USA are gulity of the same thing. and that's the way I see it...........in Cary NC...............................................LOL
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- 2 votes
#13 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 3:27 AM EST{"commentId":10617235,"authorDomain":"Husker88Fan"}
I don't believe anyone was saying this was a country specific behavior. Yes, there are parents (in every country) who put up with much more than I would but if they tolerate it .. fine! I just don't want to hear their complaints when their kids are disrespectful...they created those little darlings so deal with it! :)
Today, parents tend to use technology as a substitute for being involved in their childrens' lives because it takes less effort. We didn't have cell phones when I was growing up but we knew that if we were to be home by 5pm for dinner we best be there! If we weren't, they coming looking for us and once it was discovered we were OK .. suddenly we were not. LOL If we had permission to go out, we best be where we said we'd be as they could come walking through the door at moment. Today, parents turn to technology to make those observations.
It's not stated in the story if the phone was billed to him or the parents but if it was the parents a simple call to disconnect would have solved the problem. If the phone was his, then the parents are stuck with what they created .. a disrespectful son.
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- 3 votes
{"commentId":10612381,"authorDomain":"happyincary"}
As for the 20 years old he would follow some house rules if he was in my household, follow the rules of find somewhere eles to live, or go back to school for another degree, and that's the way I see it in Cary, NC.
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- 1 vote
#14 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 3:36 AM EST{"commentId":10615102,"authorDomain":"tkane-1"}
Sounds like my step-son. When he was 12 he told his dad that he was not a good father because we didn't send him enough child-support money every month. And we didn't get to speak with him for 2 years. We even showed up at his house (500 mile) and he refused to answer the door. His father is a severe brain injury survivor how cannot work due to his brain injury (and the fact that he crushed his legs, lost eyesight in one eye, cannot smell and has trouble speaking, all from his accident). His dad used to call 3-4 times a week and they wont answer the phone. We started sending them money every month but he still wont answer our calls. So we stopped sending money after another year and half of silence. They he started contacting us on the computer but only when he wanted money. Sad thing is he knows his dad cannot use a computer so he is still shutting him out, he just figured out a way to ask for money without talking to us. Now my husband is unable to the house without my help so there are no more checks going out since he cannot get to the bank and post office by himself. I refuse to send money to a selfish child, my husband cries himself to sleep about this but i will not pay a son to love his father. They shouldn't either.
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- 2 votes
#15 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 10:23 AM EST{"commentId":10616374,"authorDomain":"vpm626"}
Lydia-412399 I think you should really stay out of this about your husband's son. If you really knew the actual facts you probably would never have married this man before his "accident". Now, for the 20 year old and the idiot parents, whatever floats their boat I say. We should not judge people for what we don't know of the circumstances as to why some kids retailiate. After reading about kids in foster care whose own parents have abandoned them, then when they die by the foster or adoptive parent(s) does the so-called natural father or birth mother pop up with a lawsuit for money when they should be forced to pay the State back pay on why they did not take care of their own kids in the beginning and neglected them by chosing drugs, alcohol or as a lot of them do get married and their spouse does not want the kid because he or she may be handicap. What a shame. Just stay out of deadbeat parents business Okay. Until you have a kid by someone who refuses to pay child support you cannot speak for that child that feels neglected. No one can speak for an abandoned child who has a parent who refuses to support them. You do not know how that child is feeling. What about the innocent child. DAMN RIGHT he should pay up. How many times that kid needed shoes, clothes, what about going somewhere and his MOMMA does not have the money because she had to pay rent/mortgage, car note to get to and from work? Huh, what do you have to say about that? Stay out of it. The kid has every right to refuse his father since his father refused him.
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{"commentId":10623291,"authorDomain":"steviethescribbler"}
Um, vpm, you're doing exactly what you're telling Lydia not to. While she might not know the whole story about the kid, she certainly knows more than you do--and trust me, I've known some royal brats who have taken divorced parents for a ride. When I was in high school one of them even bragged about it. Yeah, in his case his dad kinda did deserve it (as in probably a lot of cases), but even if your parent IS a royal screw-up, willfully shaking them down just because you can is a little...classless. It's a bad lesson for a kid to learn--if someone's nasty or pisses you off, take them to the cleaners for fun.
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- 2 votes
{"commentId":10745484,"authorDomain":"tkane-1"}
VPM626 - Sounds like you are a little bitter. Actually I know all about fathers who don't pay child support, my mother struggled to raise 4 children with VERY little assistance from my father. We often had to sleep in only one room of our house because she couldn't afford to heat the entire house. If she hadn't worked at a major food distributor that donated food to us we wouldn't have made it. Difference is even though she had good reason she didn't choose to poison her children regarding their father. I never knew until I was an adult and my dad told me some truths. I loved him and she didn't ruin it for me with her bitterness.
You missed my point he wasn't asking for money to support him he was angry because we didn't send him more money for their vacation to Florida and another trip to an amusement park with his friend. We send him child support every month, NEVER late it is on automatic payments from his social security disability. I wasn't discussing parental responsibility as far as maintenance care I am talking spending money here. And at the time our only vehicle had been totaled and we were trying to save money to buy another one.
Sounds like you have seen what most of us have seen (neglect) but most of us were talking about more than just the basics that children are demanding we were discussing greed!
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{"commentId":10619508,"authorDomain":"KimmieLynn"}
He's not a son, he's an extortionist!
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- 5 votes
#16 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 2:06 PM EST{"commentId":10625943,"authorDomain":"chicagorich"}
I was just wondering how he could always avoid his parents coming and going and his parents never seeing him entering or leaving...do they live in a mansion?
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- 1 vote
#17 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 6:58 PM EST{"commentId":10630878,"authorDomain":"adventureswithgretchen"}
I would pay my small children $100 to shut up.
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- 1 vote
#18 - Wed Nov 11, 2009 11:23 PM EST{"commentId":10645234,"authorDomain":"melrosefaulkner"}
Somedays, all parents would.
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{"commentId":10643148,"authorDomain":"ruthlessmoose"}
just change the locks... he'll call.
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- 2 votes
#19 - Thu Nov 12, 2009 3:12 PM EST{"commentId":10645368,"authorDomain":"melrosefaulkner"}
Or else he would go naked and starve. LOL
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- 1 vote
{"commentId":10654368,"authorDomain":"ruthlessmoose"}
also good
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- 1 vote
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